Typical Han Chinese have no real personal life, but all relationship life. (“Typical” means they are well recognized as Han Chinese by other Han Chinese. Personal life, by comparing to relationship life, means the life they can enjoy as the natural one. Relationship life mean Han Chinese can only enjoy their lives in some relationship, while not the lives, which can be separated from others’. For example, if a person can enjoy a personal life, he/she doesn’t have to be in some relationship, but if a person can only enjoy a relationship life, he/she has to be in some relationship. Please distinguish between the relationship of friendship and the relationship between the upper and the lower or other unbalanced relationship.)
It is very important to understand Han Chinese behaviors in society.
If all the members of a society have their real personal life and enjoy their personal life and think the society is a way to live the life they want, they will have a different view on social relationship. And they can act under the conditions of a good society. But if they can only enjoy the unbalanced relationship, there would be different reasons for their behaviors. And the behaviors would make the society not functional enough to benefit the entire group.
But typical Han Chinese don’t have their real personal life, they all have relationship life. It affects Han Chinese views on social relationship and their social behaviors.
It is the fact, which can be experienced or observed. It is also the reason, which can be used to explain some Han Chinese phenomena, such as Han Chinese are irresponsible and lack of real moral values in society, extremely hypocritical, and think they must get to be in higher rank or have somebody in lower rank to have their enjoyable life. It is also one of the reasons why Han Chinese like children and like more generations in a family. And it is also the reason why, despite their number, they are probably the world most loneliness-fear people.







“No Chinaman is good!”
How does the world comment on Han Chinese?
Usually, the foreign researchers in universities got good impression on China, because they got very limited experience. They think Chinese are friendly and china is beautiful.
Most of the foreigners from the countries out of Eastern Asia, if they are doing business with Han Chinese, and if they are just getting to know Han Chinese, would comment, “Some of Chinese are very good.” “I think most of Chinese are good.” “Chinese are not as bad as what our government warned us at all. They (their government) told lies!” “China is very good!”(thumb up) “How can I become a Chinese citizen?”
But, after they got to know Han Chinese more, some of them would say, “Chinese are poorly qualified.” “They are irresponsible.” “We got taught lessons. We can’t trust them(Chinese) any more.” “We have to be very cautious to do business with them(Chinese).”
Those journalists or sociologists would make more negative comments. But instead of criticizing Han Chinese people, they would rather attack the communist regime.
Western tourists would make more negative comments on Chinese people, “They charge us 10 times higher than they charge Chinese.” “The service is so different from what they introduced.”
The people living in the South Eastern Asia or North Eastern Asia would call Han Chinese “Chinaman” or “Chinapig!” because they have known Han Chinese for a long time and know well.
All of the “mature” Han Chinese immigrants (overseas Han Chinese) comment on Han Chinese, “No Chinaman is good.”
All of the “mature” Han Chinese (living in china, Taiwan, or Hong Kong) would say, “Don’t trust them(Han Chinese)! They are the most virulent.” And themselves are also Han Chinese, and get alerted to by other Han Chinese.
The comments by different people are so diverse. But usually, people who know Han Chinese more make more negative comments.
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* The above is based on my personal experience. I didn’t do a social statistics.
** “mature” means knowing or experiencing Han Chinese well enough.