If Han Chinese are forced to admit that they treated you unfairly, they have another moral value to restrict you, “You don’t know you should forgive?”
Can it apply to themselves?
Today, they forgive the Mongol and Manchu minorities, and call them brothers, dear from-the-same-wombs. But in international relationship, they didn’t forgive Xiongnu, they didn’t forgive Mongols, they didn’t forgive Manchu, they didn’t forgive Japanese. They even manufacture evidence to prove how bad Japanese are.
In the relationship between Han Chinese themselves, they forgive the predominant side because they fear they would get hurt more if they don’t forgive, they forgive the upper because they think they should forgive. But if themselves are the predominant one, or if they think they are the upper, they hurt you more if you hurt them because the unbalance of hurt can only benefit themselves. And if they have to admit they hurt you after they did, they assign the moral value of forgiveness to you.
Forgive or not, it’s the typical Han Chinese relativity. The moral value is one-sided and exists as the tool to offend.
Discussions on the Han Chinese Mental Illness 